Most of us don’t think we have a problem with the love game. We don’t believe that we need to know how to find freedom in love.
As a matter of fact, most of think we know how to love… when in reality we don’t.
Why do I say that?
I’m glad that you asked … because that’s what I want to share with you in this article.
So, read on… and you will discover at least three things that you may need to consider to step up your love game.
I said three things… but maybe I’ll throw in a fourth thing. You will have to keep reading to find out though.
First, let’s look at…
8 Ways to Experience Love
This is an excerpt from the article… Love… What’s Important About That?
The first of these 8 types of love is “Eros” this is an erotic love… And if you know anything about the Ancient Greeks you will also understand why this is the first in order.
I’ll let you study that for yourself if you know what I mean? The remaining types are as follows:
“Philia” or Affectionate Love. …
“Storge” or Familiar Love. ….
“Ludus” or Playful Love. …
“Mania” or Obsessive Love. …
“Pragma” or Enduring Love. …
“Philautia” or Self Love. …
“Agape” or Selfless Love.
Now out of all this love talk and love types, there is one attribute that we must concern ourselves with above all else.
Can you guess what that is?
If you guessed the “Agape” Selfless Love you would be absolutely right.
What is Love?
The one thing that sticks out to me most is our ability and willingness to do everything that God commands us to do…except love one another.
When it comes to love we all seem to have our own agenda or our own way of doing it.
Love is a choice. And yet there are several different types to choose from
Most times our way is not God’s way tho.
So, before we discover how to find freedom in love… Let’s look at what is known as the eight different types of love.
And as you read them… And if I may suggest… take a look within yourself and see which of these types of love fits your way of love most.
Who Do We Suppose to Love?
The question who do we supposed to love is sort of like asking… “Who is my neighbor?”
Do I have to tell you the answer to that?
I will anyway…
Just as everyone that we meet is our neighbor, we are also to love every person that we meet.
Oh boy… You don’t really mean every person… Do you?
Yes, every person… Even those who don’t look like, smell like, sound like, dress like… and especially those that don’t believe as we do.
To truly love people has to be learned…that is unless God has given you the gift to do it supernaturally.
Some folks seem to have it…I wish I did.
But for now, I have to be thankful for the gift to want to do it God’s way… That’s also a gift as well.
Where Do We Look For Love?
“Looking for love in all the wrong places, looking for love in too many faces.”
Those are the lyrics to a song that was published in 1980 by songwriter and artist Johnny Lee.
Those are words that hold true today as in every generation before the song was ever recorded and after.
We all at some point in our life look for love in the wrong places. Let’s just take a look at that for a moment.
When we look for love in all the wrong places…it could be that we are looking for love in things more so than in people.
What I mean by that is the heart is always looking for something to glory in.
The human heart is deceitful.
Have you ever heard the saying that the idle mind is the devil’s workshop? Sure you have…
Well, the human heart is subject to the same type of trickery, because if we don’t guard it… it can become full of idols.
You know what an idol is…it those things that crowd our hearts and minds in the place where God should be.
This is also known as trying to satisfy a need that only The Lord our God can satisfy.
Here are a few examples of misplaced love or idolatry.
Love for money. That’s probably the most common.
Loving your occupation. Putting your job and success above your relationship with God and/or your family.
The love for material things… such as cars, houses, jewelry, clothes etc.
Here’s the one that a lot of us get in trouble with… And it is to love any person more than we love God.
It’s easy for us to make someone that we are in love with a god in our lives. And most of us will at some time or another in our life.
That leads me to this part of the song lyrics…
We Look For Love in, to Many Faces.
We all have a need to feel accepted and desired… That’s unless your just way out there somewhere other than reality or the real world.
We have the need to be loved and for the most part, express love… I’ll get to the expressing part a little later though…
But for now, let’s explore that need and desire in us to be loved and accepted.
You see there’s nothing wrong with that desire because God gave it to us.
But as I said the heart is very tricky and it can fall for anything and anyone if we are not careful.
That’s why the Bible admonishes us to guard our heart with all diligence…
I have discovered that our hearts can easily fall in love with the wrong things or the wrong person.
The more you spend time doing something the more it’s likely to become a habit.
And the more time that we allow ourselves to communicate with others the more attached we are likely to become.
This is especially true when it comes to the opposite sex and romance.
A lot of people think they fall in love all the time, but they’re not truly in love. … You and I need to make the choice to be loving.
Try to look at the person you’re with and choose to love that person all over again.
Do you think you can do it?
Falling in love may feel like it just happens. To an extent, it does “just happen.” That’s because for one… We need it.
How Do We Find Freedom in Love?
“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.”
1 John 3:18 AKJV
I must confess that when it comes to me truly loving someone before now… I was clueless.
Just as the Apostle John has told us not to love in only word and tongue; this is how I thought love was to be expressed.
In word and in the tongue… You know what I mean. It’s not enough just to tell someone that you love them.
I do know better than that nowadays…I still don’t have a monopoly on love and I am still learning to love properly.
So, we must choose to find freedom in love and to love one another.
We can only do this when we get free from ourselves.
Being made free from ourselves is the key to generosity, hospitality, being tenderhearted and putting the needs of others before our own.
I talked about that here.
Love is a choice and it’s not always an easy choice for most of us.
Nevertheless, if we want a life that will be fulfilling, it must be filled with love.
If you have some thoughts on love would you please share them with me in the comments section below this article?
I would really like to know where your thoughts are concerning the greatest thing that we can do.
So, here’s something to always keep in mind if you need freedom from or freedom to do anything.
Jesus can give you the ability and strength to do it.
“Whom the Son has made free is free indeed.”